Thursday, February 17, 2011

Emotional Pain: 7 Keys To Finding Happiness

As you all know I am all about sharing. I wish I could take credit for the information I am sharing below, but once again this is something I came across in my research for transitioning back to work after being on mental health leave for the last 6 months.

My current mental health journey had a lot to do with emotional pain. Emotional pain that went all the way back to when I was a child. As you can see from previous posts I am doing everything I can think of to help myself overcome this emotional pain, including many of the things mentioned in this article I am sharing with you:


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If we receive a physical injury, we know that there will be pain. We also know that the physical pain will eventually subside. Emotional pain is a much different experience. Emotional pain can be the result of the death of a loved one, divorce, losing a job...etc. With emotional pain, there is no physical injury so we often do not realize how harmful the pain can be if left untreated. That is, if we do not confront and resolve the pain, it can be very devastating and even affect us physically. Fortunately, when afflicted with overwhelming emotional pain, there are ways to find happiness again.

Below are 7 keys to overcoming emotional pain to find happiness again:

1. Be Honest with Yourself: It is essential that you acknowledge your emotional pain. Once you are honest with yourself and acknowledge that your pain is interfering with your happiness and ability to move forward in life, you will be in a better position to heal. Lying to yourself will only exacerbate your pain and cause more problems.

2. Take Control of your Emotions: Teach your brain to process your thoughts and emotions in a new productive way. When you train your brain to control your negative thoughts and emotions, you can develop techniques to fill your mind with positive thoughts. For instance, write down everything in your life that makes you happy, no matter how small. Read the list everyday and add to it when you think of more things that make you happy. As well, practice reciting positive affirmation statements and catch your self when you start to go down the tunnel of negativity. By working to eliminate the negative, you will train your brain to focus on the positive.

3. Laugh and Smile: Laughter is great medicine for treating emotional pain. Engage in activities the make you laugh and smile. For instance, watch comedy movies and television programs, listen to your favorite music, spend time socializing with family and fiends, engage in a fun hobby, participate in a recreational sport, and get outside and enjoy the beauty nature offers. Doing something you enjoy will keep your mind focused on positive things instead of sitting at home dwelling on the negative.

4. Gain a Positive Perspective: Think of the events that caused the emotional pain as a learning experience that challenges you, but will help you grow as a person. Ask yourself what you learned from the event and how it can help you become a stronger person. Perhaps you are carrying emotional pain of being bullied as a child. Have you thought that the child who bullied you was carrying a lot of pain too and was dealing it with it in an unproductive and self-destructive way? Is it time to forgive? Can you forgive? Remember anger and deep pain is very destructive and letting go can be very emotionally liberating.

5. Mind Relaxation: Achieving inner peace will help you overcome your pain. Meditation and yoga are two tools to achieving inner peace and letting go of the pain. As well, you can go for long walk to reflect on things, relax in a hot bubble bath, or relax in a sauna. Relaxing will help you rid yourself of stress, anxiety, anger, and resentment. Praying is another helpful way to achieve spiritual peace and enlightenment.

6. Turn Negative Action into Positive Action: Do things that make you feel good and give your life meaning. For instance, volunteering for a local charity is a great way to make you feel good. You could even do little things such as helping an elderly person put their groceries in the car or helping a neighbor clear snow from the driveway.

7. Visualization: Visualizing positive things is very helpful to overcoming pain. For instance, visualize sitting on a beach and watching the sunset. Visualize the warm embrace of the sun, the shimmering water, and the warm breeze brushing against your cheeks. Take deep slow breaths as you visualize. You will feel a sense of peace and joy flow through your body.

Emotional pain can be paralyzing and the mind can be very powerful during times of great pain. However, when you do deal with the pain in a positive and productive manner, it will not be long before you find happiness again.

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1 comment:

  1. It doesn't matter whether a stranger or a love one hurt you. It is always wise to forget the sorrow and move on.